The Power of Your Word – Part 1

June 20, 2024

Master Communication to Create Your Ideal Life

The Power of Your Word: Creating Your Life with Intention

Today, we dive into a conversation that explores the profound impact and power of your word. We will address two pillars of the LAVISH framework, where the V stands for voice and L for love of self, this discussion unveils how mastering our voice can transform our lives. High-achievers and leaders may understand the influence of their words, but we’re taking it to a whole new level. Let’s explore the power of your word and how it shapes your reality.

To master your words, you must reach a certain level of awareness. This involves mastering your mind and thoughts, and being conscious of your energy flow. While many understand the universal law of cause and effect, this discussion will help you comprehend it on a deeper level. Most of us live as the effect rather than the cause. To live a lavish life of leadership, mastery, and divinity, we must transition to being the cause in our lives. It is in this way that we become the master creators of our destiny.

Understanding How Words Create

Lao Tzu wisely said, “Watch your thoughts; they become your words. Watch your words; they become your actions. Watch your actions; they become your habits. Watch your habits; they become your character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.” Our words are incredibly powerful, setting universal laws into motion. They shape our reality, for better or worse.

Our words are so powerful. They have the power to speak life or death to our lives and to the lives of others. Not only that, our words set Universal Law into motion, which means they hold not only potential and possibility, but for better or worse, they are quite possibly the cause of the effect you may be experiencing right now.

Ask yourself: What do you call yourself? How do you talk to yourself? Are you in control of your words? Do they move you towards wholeness and integrity, or do they highlight your fears and shortcomings? Have you mastered the power of your words to speak truth and negate the false thoughts and beliefs that run through your head? Can you use your words to stay in integrity with yourself? Or is what comes out of your mouth serving to keep you tethered to the whims of other people’s wants and desires with your simple yes or no? These questions are crucial in understanding how our words create our lives.

The Science and Spirituality of Words

Anyone who diminishes the power of words is ignorant of science, psychology, humanity, and spirituality. The old adage, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” is misleading. Words can hurt deeply, but they can also heal and create. When we master our words, we align with our higher self and create a life of integrity and purpose.

In Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements, the first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. This means using your words with integrity, to speak truth and love not only for yourself, but for others, for everything and about everything. It’s about using your energy correctly, directing it towards positive creation. Gossiping or speaking negatively misdirects our energy and affects our reality.

The Importance of Self-Talk and Integrity

Self-talk is a crucial aspect of this mastery. The fiery darts of negative self-talk about our bodies, mistakes, or shortcomings affect our reality. Similarly, negative talk about others misdirects our energy. Everything is connected, and our words create our frequency, which life mirrors back to us.

If you feel stuck or unable to heal, pay close attention to your words. They may lack purity and alignment. Self-love, woven through the lavish framework, is essential in this process. Healing is about revealing the truth, and the truth is that our words create our reality.

Embracing the Power of “No”

One powerful aspect of mastering your words is using “no” to protect your “yeses.” This is about setting boundaries and aligning with your true desires. Many of us are people pleasers, saying yes out of fear or obligation. This leads to burnout and unhappiness.

Saying no is about valuing your time and energy. It’s crucial to recognize what you truly want and align your actions accordingly. Every yes means saying no to something else. Consider the opportunity cost and prioritize what truly matters to you.

Practical Steps to Mastering Your Words

  1. Get Clear on Your Desires: Understand what you value and what you truly want. Use this clarity to guide your decisions and actions.
  2. Use “No to Protect Your “Yes“: Say no to anything that doesn’t align with your desires. This protects your time and energy for what truly matters.
  3. Practice Integrity in Your Speech: Be mindful of your words. Speak positively and truthfully about yourself and others.
  4. Align Your Actions with Your Words: Ensure that your actions reflect your words. This creates consistency and integrity in your life.
  5. Reflect on Your Self-Talk: Pay attention to how you talk to yourself. Replace negative self-talk with positive encouragement.


Mastering the power of your word transforms your life. By being impeccable with your words, aligning your actions, and protecting your energy, you become the master creator of your reality. This shift from living as the effect to living as the cause is empowering and liberating.

Stay tuned for the next part of this series, where we’ll explore asking for what you need and becoming a masterful communicator. Embrace the power of your word and create the life you desire.

This blog post encapsulates the essence of the podcast episode, weaving in my insights and reflections on the power of words. It is designed to inspire and empower you to harness your voice to create a life of integrity and purpose.

Listen to the entire episode and catch all of my bi-weekly downloads of The Lavish Leader on Apple podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube, or anywhere else podcasts are found and click subscribe.

For more insights and guidance on how to live a lavish life, visit my website.

Remember, you too can live a lavish life of fulfillment, freedom, and joy.

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Love of Self
Abundance & Authenticity
Vitality & Voice
Intuition & Integrity
Spirituality & Self-Expression
Health & Healing


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